Does it bother you as much as it bothers me when things don't go the way you anticipated? I made a commitment to start blogging three times a week (Monday, Wednesday, Friday) for a few reasons, not the least of which is I really enjoy writing to share my experiences with others. Yesterday, I dropped the ball. I broke a promise to myself, and believe me I spent HOURS beating myself up about it.
After spending the weekend with family in Tulsa, OK my husband and I drove home to Dallas on Monday morning. We stayed over Sunday evening so we could watch the Cowboys game with my sister-in-law. On the way home yesterday, I started getting a headache that morphed into a migraine. We got home after 4 hours on the road and I went right to my bed to take a nap knowing full well I had about 5 hours before my Orientation & Sorting Ceremony call for Notary Business Builder. My intention was to come home and get my blog posts completed for the week (as well as several other things), but that didn't happen. I did not move the needle on my business yesterday at all.
The only thing that did happen yesterday was I beat myself up and made myself feel guilty for not doing what my calendar said I should be doing. I could power through, I thought.
Have you ever had a migraine? There's no powering through it. They suck. Literally they suck all the energy out of you. So I canceled the Orientation & Sorting Ceremony call (more guilt), which I hate because it's truly a highlight in my week. I was complaining to my husband how bad I felt (about the migraine and the call cancellation) and he said something that changed my mindset immediately, "How would you tell one of your SAM members or NBB members to handle it if they had to cancel something they wanted to do because of a migraine? Would you say it's OK for them to beat the hell out of themselves and feel guilty because they're sick with something they can't control?" Then, of course I immediately heard Bill's voice saying "space and grace" in my head as a reminder to give myself space and grace as much as I give to other people.
Isn't it sad how terrible we can be to ourselves even in our worst moments? Even after doing an entire series inside NBB about positive self-talk, I'm still practicing what I preach (and when the chips are down, I still need a reminder that I can be kinder to myself).
The point here is this, we're all human. Stuff comes up that we have to handle, and it can throw your day out of wack. It's OK. I don't have to be perfect, and neither do you as long as we're doing our best (and yesterday, the best I could do was cover my head with my blanket and wait it out). So, give yourself a break the next time you find yourself throwing punches or tearing yourself down. You don't deserve that from your friends, family or yourself. Remember to be as kind to yourself as you would be to your friends. I'm glad I had someone remind me of that yesterday. If you ever need that reminder, just let me know. I'm happy to help kick your negative self-talk to the curb where it belongs!