Top 5 Networking Tips to Conquer Fear and Grow Your Business

Ahhh, middle school dances!

Let’s be honest, networking can feel a lot like walking into a middle school dance: awkward, a little sweaty, and full of people pretending to be cooler than they actually are. But here’s the thing: If you want to grow your notary business (or any business), you’ve got to step into the room, fears and all. Action is the antidote to fear, and networking is your golden ticket to connection, credibility, and clients.

So how do you turn those networking jitters into genuine connections? I’ve got you covered with five practical, funny, and downright actionable tips that’ll have you mingling like a pro in no time. And if you’re a notary, stick with me—I know your fears, and we’re going to tackle them head-on.

Tip #1: Show Up (Even If You’re Nervous)

The first rule of networking is simple: You’ve got to show up. I know, I know. The idea of walking into a room full of strangers can feel like walking into a lion’s den. What if no one talks to you? What if you say something weird? What if you forget your own name? (It happens!)

Here’s the truth: None of those fears matter if you’re not in the room. By showing up, you’re already ahead of the dozens of people who stayed home binge-watching Netflix and convincing themselves they’ll "network next week."

For notaries, this is especially crucial. Your business thrives on relationships. Attorneys, real estate agents, and business owners aren’t going to magically know you exist unless you put yourself in their orbit. So take a deep breath, put on your best “I’ve-got-this” outfit, and walk through that door. Nervousness is temporary, but missed opportunities? Those stick around.

Tip #2: Focus on Them, Not You

Here’s a secret: Networking isn’t about you. It’s about *them*.

When you’re nervous, it’s easy to get stuck in your own head, worrying about what you’ll say or how you’ll come across. But the best way to ease your fears is to shift your focus outward. Be curious. Ask questions. Show genuine interest in the people you’re talking to.

Notaries, this is where you shine. Your job requires you to be trustworthy, approachable, and detail-oriented—all traits that make you a fantastic listener. So instead of stressing about pitching your services, focus on building relationships. Ask about their business. Find out what challenges they’re facing. Listen for ways you can help.

Not only does this take the pressure off you, but it also makes you memorable. People love talking about themselves, and they’ll walk away from the conversation thinking you’re the most charming person in the room… even if you barely said a word.

Tip #3: Practice Your Elevator Pitch (But Keep It Casual)

Let’s talk about the dreaded elevator pitch. You know, that 30-second spiel where you’re supposed to summarize who you are, what you do, and why you’re awesome… all without sounding like a robot.

If the thought of delivering an elevator pitch makes you want to fake a coughing fit and leave the room, you’re not alone. But here’s the good news: Your pitch doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be *you*.

For notaries, this might sound like:

- “Hi, I’m [Your Name], a mobile notary specializing in real estate closings and trust signings. I help busy professionals save time by bringing my services to them.”

Keep it simple, conversational, and flexible. You don’t have to deliver the same script every time. Tailor it to the situation and the person you’re talking to. And if you mess up? Laugh it off. People appreciate authenticity far more than perfection (read that again)!

Embrace the Awkward!

Tip #4: Embrace the Awkward Moments

Let’s get one thing straight: Awkward moments are inevitable. You’ll forget someone’s name, accidentally interrupt a conversation, or stand alone by the cheese platter for a little too long. It’s all part of the networking experience.

But here’s the thing: Awkward moments don’t define you. How you handle them does. Instead of letting a misstep derail your confidence, roll with it. Crack a joke, smile, and move on. Most people won’t even notice, and those who do will appreciate your ability to laugh at yourself.

Notaries, this is especially important for you. Maybe you’re worried about saying the wrong thing to a potential referral partner or stumbling over your words. But guess what? Attorneys and real estate agents are human, too. They’ve been there. They’re not expecting perfection; they’re looking for connection. So embrace the awkwardness and keep going.

Tip #5 Follow Up Like a Pro

Networking doesn’t end when the event does. The magic happens in the follow-up.

Think about it: You meet someone great, exchange business cards, and have a fantastic conversation. Then… nothing. If you don’t follow up, that connection fades faster than your New Year’s resolution to eat less chocolate.

For notaries, following up is your chance to solidify relationships and stay top of mind. Send a quick email the next day:

- “Hi [Name], it was great meeting you at [Event]! I really enjoyed our conversation about [topic]. Let me know if you ever need a reliable notary or if there’s a way I can support your business.”

Keep it short, friendly, and specific. And don’t stop there! Stay in touch with periodic check-ins (what I call a "Shout Out" in the 5 Point Marketing System), whether it’s sharing an article they might find useful or just saying hello. Consistency is key.

Action Is the Only Way Past Fear

Let’s wrap this up with a little tough love: The only way to conquer your fear of networking is to *do it*. No amount of reading, prepping, or pep-talking will replace the experience of getting out there and taking action.

Yes, it’ll feel scary at first. Your palms might sweat, your voice might shake, and you might fumble a few conversations. But every time you push past the fear and take action, it gets easier. And before you know it, you’ll be walking into events with confidence, making connections left and right.

Notaries, your business depends on relationships. Attorneys, real estate agents, and clients aren’t going to find you if you’re hiding behind your desk. Networking is your opportunity to show the world who you are and what you bring to the table. So don’t let fear hold you back. Take that first step, and keep going.

Aaaaaand, Action!

Your Challenge: Take Action This Week

Now that you’ve got the tips, it’s time to put them into action. Here’s your challenge: Find one networking event this week, show up, and follow up with at least one person you meet. Just one event, one conversation, and one follow-up. You can do this.

Remember, the path to success is paved with action. Take that first step, embrace the awkwardness, and trust that every connection you make brings you closer to your goals.

Happy networking!